No one wants to be the first to jump off the “crazy train” that is modern parenting. But Dr. Meg Meeker does a great job of helping parents restore some perspective and sanity.
by Heidi Indahl
A few years ago, I had the opportunity to hear Dr. Meg Meeker speak at the Minnesota Catholic Home Education Conference. One piece of her talk has stayed with me ever since. She says (I am paraphrasing here), “All the moms are on a train. A crazy train. Everyone’s riding along dragging their heels and they all want to jump off. But no one wants to be first!”
Isn’t that just the truth of parenting in today’s culture? Everything is go-go-go all of the time. There are always more activities and more things to achieve. Kids drop out of sports and music and other activities regularly, not because they don’t enjoy participating, but because they either don’t have the time or because they haven’t been identified as the super kid and are getting the cold shoulder from coaching staff or others. There is huge push for every kid to be brilliant at whatever they do and parents to bend over backwards sacrificing time and money to make their child into a prodigy in a given area. It is often assumed that everything a child does is (or should be) the most important thing the child does.
Yet, it doesn’t really need to be that way.
Dr. Meeker has several resources available, including an online class, to help parents build the skills they need to raise confident kids without getting on the crazy train. (Paraphrasing again! She will always be the “crazy train lady” to me.) The class costs money, although I haven’t taken it to know if it is worth the price (nor do I receive any compensation if you decide to do it, although I would be happy to have you let her know how you heard about it). She also has several books available. Not having time for the class or extra reading right now (newborn baby, remember!), I have found that I really enjoy following her page on Facebook as she posts almost daily quotes and encouragement for parents. She is highly passionate about family relationships! Her positive bites in my newsfeed are a perfect balance to all of the crazy train that I usually find there.
There is no denying that being a Catholic Christian is a call to live in a way that is counter to the culture happening around us. I like to highlight things I am aware of that can help us on our journey of intentional family living. Be sure to take each resource with a discerning eye and only pursue those which you believe will truly help your family achieve your goals. If you know about any other resources that can aid us as parents be sure to leave a comment here or send me a message on my Work and Play Day by Day Facebook page.